Motherhood can be so rewarding, but yet such a challenging experiences. Motherhood is a journey that changes you. If I have learned anything in the past 8 years, it is that motherhood is not Pinterest perfect. There is not a one-size fits all approach to the journey.
I think Joan Ryan (the author of The Water Giver) says it best, “Motherhood is about raising and celebrating the child you have, not the child you thought you would have. It’s about understanding that he is exactly the person he is supposed to be. And that, if you’re lucky, he just might be the teacher who turns you into the person you are supposed to be.”
It is truly amazing how much I have learned from my children in the last 8 years. Each child brings something unique to the table. We each have a bond and relationship unlike the other, and it is truly amazing. The love I have for my children is undeniably one of the strongest emotions I have ever felt.
Let’s face it though – my journey through motherhood has not be all glitz and glory. I have been faced with many challenges, not limited to… mom guilt and postpartum anxiety disorder. Being a Mom means being faced with some of the most difficult hurdles in your life. It is about learning to make sacrifices.
Motherhood has taught me how to step out of my comfort zone. It has placed me in unstructured situations, and if anyone knows me well… You know how much I thrive off of routine. People warn you prior to giving birth to your first child to be prepared to struggle to bounce back post-baby and to enjoy sleep while you can. I’ll be the first to admit that I laughed it off. It is funny how I use to chalk up how I would parent my hypothetical perfect non-existent children.
The thing about the sacrifices that mothers make – they really aren’t that big of a deal in the end. No sacrifice is too big in the eyes of a mother.
For me I enjoy making these sacrifices. They are more of a privilege if anything. The desire to put my children first only comes naturally. My children won’t be little forever, and the reality is that as they grow they won’t need me as much. I enjoy living in the moment with them. Seeing the world the way the way my children see it, full of magic and wonder. It has been such a delight to watch my children continue to grow, as each year passes… It is just as amazing to see how much I have grown.
Pampers has really said it perfectly in their latest Mother’s Day video. For all the sacrifices we make as Mom’s whether it be the late night changing, cuddling, feedings and so on. Don’t feel like it goes unnoticed. You may be tired. You may feel taken forgrantted. Resentful even because you’re husband is snoring away beside you while you have been trying to get your little one back to sleep for the 5th time. I know I have been there. Heck, I still have days like that. BUT – in the end all of those moments suddenly become so worth it and rewarding when your little one coo’s or strokes your face with that look of unconditional love in their eyes as they cuddle in for a snuggle. They may not know how to say it – but, they love you!
As I gear up to celebrate my eighth Mother’s Day, not only do I look forward to hopefully enjoying a little time alone. Spa time, anyone? I also look forward to being together as a family. There has been no greater gift in my life than that of my children, and this Mother’s Day I look forward to celebrating the joy and abundance of love that they have brought me over the years.