Growing up I never really did have many girlfriends. I had a few close girlfriends, but my guy friends seemed to out weigh them. I don’t know what it was about guys that made me get along with them better. I was your total girly girl. I loved anything and everything pink. Loved to dance. Talk on the phone. Dresses. You name it. Er… well except shopping. Shopping never really was my thing… until now.

I started to value the importance of having girlfriends in my life shortly after I got married. I’m not sure why then. It was like a switch went off. We moved to a new city. I started a new career. I met new group of people. Not to say that I forgot about my other friends… I didn’t. It was just a new start. Very slowly I started to realize how much I craved my girl time and nights. My girlfriends are like family. I like to see them often! They’re my sanity. They know things about me that many others don’t. Love ’em.
O Magazine featured an article – Top 5 Friends Everyone Should Have. This article got me reflecting on my friendships. I have a friend in everyone one of the categories mentioned. Do you?

Friends are the family we choose for ourselves,” writer Edna Buchanan once said. I consider the “family” I’ve gathered—with five kinds of pals I count on for completely different things—among the wisest choices I’ve made. If you can find even one who embodies any of the characteristics that follow, you can consider yourself fortunate.

1. The Uplifter
This woman’s favorite word: yes. You could tell her you’re trading your six-figure income for a career in offtrack betting, and she’d barely pause before yelping “Go for it!” Don’t you need someone who looks past the love handles to notice the extraordinarily gorgeous you?

2. The Travel Buddy
When the hotel in St. Lucia is a bust, one characteristic becomes all-important: flexibility. This agreeable companion need not be the girl you traded pinkie swears with on the playground; it’s enough that she’s comfortable with quiet (between gabfests) and is a teensy bit mischievous (as in tequila after midnight).

3. The Truth Teller
Intent is what separates the constructive from the abusive. Once you’ve established that the hard news is spoken in love (not in jealousy or malice), you’d be smart to seek out this woman’s perspective.

4. The Girl Who Just Wants to Have Fun
One Saturday a pal and I—and yes, we’re both over age 12—pored over every glitter lip gloss in a drugstore aisle for an entire 45 minutes. Forget the crisis download (for that, see the Uplifter); this partnership is about spontaneous good times.

5. The Unlikely Friend
“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive,” Anaïs Nin wrote. My friends—some twice my age, others half, some rich, others homeless, some black, others Korean, Mexican, Caucasian—have added richness to my life that only variety can bring. 


Article By Michelle Burford
O, The Oprah Magazine | From the May 2005 issue of O, The Oprah Magazine

2 Comments on 5 Friends Everyone Should Have

  1. Nicole
    November 23, 2011 at 1:23 am (6 years ago)

    Thanks for the follow! ~ Nicole

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